I’ve been talking about Living Your Dream for a while now and it occurred to me that you may need some help to actually discover and pinpoint exactly what your dream is.

So let’s go through 11 questions to help you not only realize your dream – but also give it a kickstart to get you moving toward what you really want.

The best way to begin is to write down the dreams that you have.

So grab a piece of paper and a pen – or open up a notepad on your device of choice – and start listing everything that you can imagine that you would really want. In my coaching classes, I recommend the Goal Setting Workshop by Tony Robbins which walks you through finding your goals in incredible detail.  If you’ve never done this exercise before – it’s invaluable.

Now that you have your goals in front of you – you’re ready to really begin to hone in and focus on your DREAM.

Ask yourself each of these 11 questions:

1. What’s your highest priority in this lifetime?
What’s most important for you to experience, explore or embrace this time around? Until you answer this question, your life goals will be off purpose. If you are not aligned with your inner passion, your intentions will lack the power to attract the people and situations necessary to become a reality. Get clued into what gives you true joy. What activities turned you on as a child? What are your hobbies now?

When your goals are aligned with your soul’s purpose, you will be automatically be drawn and guided toward your target. When you truly know and take ownership your talents and calling, assistance will flow to you from every earthly and heavenly source.

2. Is this your dream, or someone else’s?
Are your goals your own choice, or what others think you should strive for? As John Maxwell says in his book, Put Your Dream To The Test, “you can’t rent a dream from someone else. It has to be yours.” You need to have a dream that you will take ownership of, that you will care for, that you will engage in fully. Do you want to look back in your old age and wish you had followed your passion? Will you regret having “played it safe?” Maybe you feel it is selfish to go after your own dream. Ask yourself, what joy can you give to others if you haven’t given it to yourself first?

You need to listen to your heart in order to follow your dream. Only then can you fulfill your destiny and have your dream become reality.

3. Do you really, really want this dream?
Do you jump out of bed every morning excited to pursue your vision? Or is it a lukewarm dream you chase because it sounds meaningful? Are you passionate about this dream? Are you willing to do almost anything to achieve it?  Will you feel incomplete or unsatisfied until you finally have your dream?

Only the Real McCoy will generate enough energy to manifest itself in your life.

4. Are you settling for less?
Are you resigned to accepting less than your full share of love, health and success this lifetime? Have you been compromising, belittling or sacrificing your dream? Don’t!

Anything short of living your true passions will never make you happy. Don’t just live your life. LIVE it! Do you want to arrive at the Pearly Gates with the regret of not marrying that one captivating person, starting that fun business, or seeing that exotic part of the world you always wanted to visit?

5. Is your dream actually just part of another dream?
We’re looking for the big dreams here. So evaluate this: Is your dream the ultimate end in itself, or merely a piece of your ultimate dream? Isn’t it really a certain amount of money you want to make – not just that new car? Get to the heart of your dream. Isn’t it really a renewed sense of self-worth you desire, rather than the new car or house to impress the family and neighbors? And isn’t it really happiness you want, rather than the picture-perfect mate, job or body?

Focus on exactly the dream environment you want to create, not just the physical form that may – or may not – bring you that experience.

6. What will you feel like when you reach your dream?
Personal passion fuels a vision. Dive into the thrill and exhilaration of that feeling of living your dream. Every moment you can, drink in the joy of having your dream. The Hawaiian Kahuna say, “Where your creative attention flows, so flows your life.” Is your daily attention feeding your dream? Are you doing something each and every day to fuel that dream?

It’s high time you manifested your aspirations. Dynamic, satisfying creations are nurtured with love and cared for like a flower in a garden.

7. How will you benefit from getting your dream?
Be very specific about the benefits you’ll receive from achieving your vision. Write down these pluses so they will sink in as motivators. What exactly would happen if you made a lot of money doing something you love? How would you approach your life differently if you allowed people to love and support you? What would you do with more vitality and health?

8. What steps can you take today toward your dream?
Don’t wait any longer. Set up supports and systems around you to instantly translate your intentions into action. Jump on every opportunity that is in line with your purpose and vision.
Keep the momentum going. No matter how hectic life gets, pledge to take at least one action a day. Even the smallest actions – such as jotting down a new idea, reading a single page, or making one phone call – can start to add up.

Are there smaller projects that lead to your larger dream that can give you pleasure in the meantime? If the dream is to run a marathon, train for a local fun-run first. And find a way to measure your progress. Track those little wins by writing in a journal or telling a friend. Start a blog and post your successes and achievements that will inspire others.

If you’re still a little stuck on finding your dream, these next few questions may help.

9. Are you telling yourself: “I can’t have my dream?”
Many people don’t believe they can live their dream. That mindset has to change in order to achieve your dream. Evaluate what has you believing you can’t make a living doing what they love, or what it is that is making you feel as if you don’t deserve your dream.

Challenge those assumptions – they will never allow you to ever reach your dreams!  Too often, people avoid the pain of feeling they can’t have their dream, or they keep their dream so buried they can’t remember ever having a dream. It’s time to do some digging and unearth those dreams.

Everyone has a dream! And everyone is destined to fulfill that purpose. Don’t wait any longer.

10. Are you afraid of getting your dream?
Actually getting your dream can be really frightening! Of course, realizing your dream is only threatening to those assumptions that you have right now.  As you work on changing your mindset, you will not fear what your dream will bring. It’s your current self and the life you know and feel comfortable in that has gotten you to where you are right now. If you want to get somewhere else – to something more – you need to use different thinking than you have been.

Change is scary. Find a way to move through the energy of fear. The only way to avoid feeling fear is to avoid living altogether! And that kind of thinking won’t help you to start living your dream.

The final question is the most important of all.

11. Do you really need to accomplish your dream?
How bad do you really want this? I mean really – how bad do you want this? Re-evaluate your answers to question number 3. Tweak them. Envision them. Feel them. Then take action. Do something with what you’ve learned here.

Here’s your challenge for today:

Write your dreams down and read them every morning and every night. Create a dream board and put up photos of what your dreams look like. Do something today – and then each and every day – that will move you closer to your dream.

And never, never, never give up.

You can do this!  I believe in you.

Living my Dream,

Lori

 

I’d be glad to help you find and live your dream. Contact me for your free coaching session today.